WW: A glimpse of our Graduation 2013

You want to spoil your kids, be my guest BUT......

Lately Fathini who just finished sitting for her exams for both Primary School and her Religious School always shares with me some stories. The stories were about how some of the other parents promised to buy some presents like Ipad, handphone or remote control helicopter if their kids managed to achieve excellent result. When I asked Fathini, does it mean that she wants it too? She just shrugged her shoulders and told me she didn't mind.

I don't mind when other parents want to spoil their own kids. My only concern is when other unfortunate kids from poor families feel jealous and demand the same thing from their parents. Knowing kids, they like to brag about what they have and if possible would like to show off whenever they can. I have to admit that right now, we are also having some financial constraint. We don't really have the budget to spend lavishly on buying presents to our kids. I know that giving presents can be a good incentive to the kids BUT how far will we go into giving this incentive? Would we buy whatever our kids wish for just to encourage them to achieve excellent result?

My parents used to give this kind of incentive too but they never specified what kind of presents we would get. After we got the excellent result then only they would brought us for a special dinner treat or sometimes bought some not-so-expensive presents.

We are really hoping that not only Fathini but Hafizah and Husna will always try to achieve excellent result because they want to succeed and not because we have to promise them 1001 material stuffs that wouldn't even last that long.

Do you encourage your kids to get excellent result by making some promises too?

Kuat ketawa? byk tidur? Kurang bercakap? Senang menangis? Apa maknanya ye...

Renung-renungkanlah dan cuba refleksi diri sendiri..............

Psikologist mengatakan:

1. Apabila seseorang itu terlalu ketawa terbahak-bahak biarpun hanya perkara kecil yang langsung tidak lucu dan kelihatan bodoh, dia sebenarnya seorang yang mempunyai jiwa yang sangat sunyi.

2. Sekiranya seseorang itu banyak tidur, dia orang yang kuat bersedih.

3. Apabila dia kurang bercakap tetapi pantas dalam berbicara, bermakna dia menyimpan seribu rahsia.

4. Sekiranya dia sukar untuk mengeluarkan airmata, dia seorang yang lemah.

5. Kalau senang menangis meskipun benda yang kecil sahaja, dia seorang yang berhati lembut.

6. Dan sekiranya dia cepat marah biarpun perkara sekecil kuman, itu bermakna dia perlukan kasih sayang.

Berusahalah untuk memahami orang lain, selepas kita memahami diri kita sendiri. Bukan 100% betul, tetapi ada sedikit kebenarannya disitu....

Bridesmaids, Flower Girls+ A Flower Boy.

Last Saturday, we headed off to Ipoh to attend and helping out my hubby's cousin who was getting married. We missed the solemnization event because it was done on Friday - the day before. We only managed to attend the reception in the Community Hall in Meru, Ipoh.

We took off at 8 a.m. and arrived by 10.30 a.m. The journey was smooth and we didn't stop at all throughout the journey. My MIL wanted to arrive there early to avoid any traffic jam and to help her sister (the mother of the bride) with the last minute preparation of the reception. By the time we arrived at their house, they have done packed most of the guests' gifts. So, we basically just sit back and relaxed before getting ready.

All of us have our 'uniform' given by the bride. We had to sent to a tailor to make them.To be frank, I'm not a fan of the colour and the fabrics chosen but we didn't have other choices. I felt that mine was the worst since the colour resembled nurses uniform or factory workers uniform. For our kids, they had to wear white dresses with a blue ribbon on the waist. The fabric looked like curtain fabric (it's a see-through fabric too) and I do hate white dress for kids. Okay I better stop here about my disappointment on a small issue.

At 12 p.m. , most of us got ready to go to the hall except for the bride. 3 make-up artists were busy preparing her to look gorgeous on her big day. Thus, they had to take about 3 hours before they sent her to the hall.

The flower girls + a flower boy were ready 

At the hall, we were told to have our lunch first with the other guests who arrived early. We helped ourselves with the delicious food. Alhamdulillah the food was good and there were a variety of drinks too. As I've predicted, Husna stained her white dress while we were having lunch because she used both hands to eat on her own then smeared everything on the lap. Hafizah and Fathini did smeared their dresses a bit too. Luckily it was not so obvious. 

The photos of the bride & groom 

The mother of the bride was busy giving instructions

My parents-in-law with my kids

My kids and I

 The bridesmaids, flower girls & a flower boy

The bride & groom with the groom's family members only arrived by 2.30 p.m. at the hall. By that time, Husna was already in the dreamland and our kids were also tired of waiting for so long. However, they were didn't make any face or complain (not like me eh... ). They performed their duty as being told by the eldest sister of the bride. The family members of the groom praised them and many took a lot photos with them. They even sprinkled more flowers after the bride and groom were already seated on the dais! Actually it was their first experience and they were so excited about it. 

1st Photo:

The arrival of the bride & groom with the groom's family members

2nd Photo:

My father-in-law said the prayer

1st Photo:

The bride & groom on the dais

2nd Photo:

They were having their lunch (makan beradap)

While the bride & groom were seating and posing on the dais, our job was to greet the guests who arrived. After greeting, we also handed over the gifts for the guests and asked them to go inside the hall. I only helped when I could leave Husna with someone else as she was taking her nap for almost the whole afternoon there. Oh...I forgot to mention that the rain showered down the whole afternoon. So, it was quite damp and wet outside of the hall. Thank god they put on 2 extra canopies where we could rest while waiting for the guests. 

The reception went on until 4.00 p.m. when most of the guests have gone and no more new guests arrived. We only managed to take the family photo with the bride & groom after that. Husna woke up just before we took the family photos. She could happily run around the hall with her siblings,cousins and other relatives while the catering workers busy packing up. 

The family photo with the bride & groom

The bride, Fathini & I

Nervous about the wedding.

It's been a long time since I posted the last entry. My laptop had to be repaired by my hubby as the screen became blank after it's been turned on for few minutes. This month, I'm busy with the preparation of our kindy Graduation & Concert 2013. So much work to do and things to be done. At the meantime, my brother Rashdan is also busy. This brother of mine is not like other so called 'normal' brother. (OKU) I've shared about his story before in other entries.

Alhamdulillah, at last he has found his soul mate. He's getting married next month! His soul mate is quite young (19 years old which is about the age like our youngest sister) but she looks matured. They have done most of the preparation and they are just waiting for the DAY. I'm a bit unhappy since I can't do so much to help them as it's so hard for me to go back to Kelantan. Even though I don't have to apply any leave but it's hard to leave our kindy unattended. Yes, I do have the staffs but if there's any problems, they'll call me and at the end I have to step in to solve it.

Hopefully, everything is really been settled by the others who can help us out. I can only call and discuss with other relatives to help us out. I reckon I'm more nervous about my brother's wedding more than mine 10 years ago.

Men VS Women: Why women take more time to get ready.

Does this always happen to you too? Yet, they (men) love to blame us and accuse us for being so fussy about look and appearance when we want to go out.