To My Darling

Salam,

TO MY DARLING
Ooooh My love,
My darling,
I hope you'll get what you want,
And we shall pray for you,
To bring home the success,
Please don't worry about us,
As we'll be okay,
With your parents and siblings here,
Who we can depend on,

Just do what you need to do,
Complete what you need to complete,
Hopefully it won't be long until we see each other again.


If you are wondering why did I create the poem and to whom I'm dedicating it to, let me just tell you that it's a special poem for my darling hubby. Right now, he's flying back to Hamilton, NZ to finish up his phd. He hasn't submit his first draft and he intend to submit it in 2 months time. And YES, that means we (my daughters and I) won't be able to celebrate Ramadan and Eidul Fitri with him this year. sedih tu sedih jugak tapi terpaksala berkorban. huhu 

When we were in the airport, my daughters seemed excited but once they couldn't see their papa, they asked "Where's papa, mama?". I had to explain why their papa had to leave us and hopefully he won't take so long this time to really finish up everything.

Our family picture in BGWP.

Don't call me "Kakak" !

Salam,

"Don't call me 'Kakak'! I'm 'adik' ". That's the normal line for Hafizah who refuse to be called 'kakak' even though she has two younger cousins. Well,  we call her 'adik' because right now she's the youngest in our family. lgpun rasanya belum fikir nak bg adik pd dia lg skrg. tapi tak tahulakan kalau dah rezeki tak boleh tolak She seems so comfortable being the youngest in our family. That's why when her cousins or other people refer or call her as 'kakak', she didn't like it. She still refuse to be toilet trained although we've tried various methods to encourage her to be diaper less. Though she always says "I'm not a baby any more"(especially when I tease her), she sometimes refuse to walk and ask us to carry her. It's not easy to carry her as her weight is now about 13 kg.

I guess Hafizah is just in the phase of "I-don't-want-to-grow-older". Maybe it's us who still want her to be our 'baby'. Well, at the age of 3, she's still small. I have to admit that once my daughters become older, I miss the baby smell on their hair. It's not that I'm not happy that they are the age where they want to do most things on the own (with a close supervision of course!). Don't get me wrong here. I just miss the time when they were fully depend on me. Now, they can happily play on their own and they have created their own invisible best friend called "Ella Bella"!

I just wonder if any of you have the same feeling of missing your children when they've grown older? Or is there any of your children still consider himself/herself as "adik"?

Kenapa perlu anda sayangi mata anda? (ini bukan iklan Permata Hijrah ye) BM entry

salam,

Hr ni sy baru ada masa nak cerita sikit apa yg terjadi hr Ahd lps. Alkisahnya, suami sy menolong papanya (bapa mertua sy) membersihkan dan mengangkat dahan2 pokok yg baru ditegang di blkg kwsn rumah. Dlm sibuk2 dia menarik dahan2 pokok tu, tanpa disengajakan, salah satu ranting kecil telah mengguris mata kanan suami sy. Pada mulanya, dia ingatkan mungkin matanya dimasuki habuk. Jadi, setelah selesai membersihkan laman, dia membasuh matanya dgn air biasa. Malangnya, selepas dibasuh dan dia cuba melelapkan mata beberapa jam, dia masih merasa tidak selesa. Jadi, lebih kurang pkl 3.30 ptg, kami ke klinik berhampiran. Kami terlupa yg pd hari Ahd, klinik ditutup slps pkl 2. Terpaksalah kami keluar semula pada pkl 6 utk berjumpa doktor.

Sewaktu berjumpa dgn doktor di salah sebuah klinik  berhampiran rumah, doktor tersebut menasihatkan agar suami sy segera ke hospital. Doktor tersebut telah menulis surat menyatakapaan keadaan suami. Doktor tersebut sebenarnya tidak dapat memeriksa mata suami sy oleh kerana ketiadaaan alat yg sesuai. Jika hanya menggunakan lampu suluh, susah utk nampak apa2 yg tak kena.

Selepas kami pulang semula ke rumah, kami berkira2 dan berfikir handak ke hospital mana. Hospital yg tedekat ialah PPUM. Mak mertua sy menyarankan Hospital Serdang oleh krn suami sy adalah kakitgn UPM. Sesudah smghyg maghrib, kami membuat keputusan utk ke PPUM. Sy sekali lg perlu memandu kereta kerana mata suami yg jd agak kabur dan semakin teruk slps beberapa jam terluka.

Apabila sampai di PPUM, kami agak keliru sewaktu hendak mencari tempat letak kereta dan juga bhgn kecemasan. Waktu itu juga hujan renyai2. Terasa romantik pula bila berjln berdua2 dan berkongsi satu payung. Hehehe. ( tah apa2 la, suami sakit pikir romantik pulak. hehehe). Selepas pendaftaran, (suami hanya perlu menunjukkan surat akuan dr UPM yg ada di dlm kad kesihatannya), kami pun menunggu di luar wad kecemasan. Oleh kerana kes suami sy dianggap kurang serius, kami perlu menunggu lebih kurang 1 jam lebih sblm dpt berjumpa doktor. Doktor yg bertugas pula tidak pasti dgn kecedaraan sebenar dan telah memanggil doktor pakar mata yg bertugas mlm.

Hanya doktor pakar mata dpt memeriksa keadaan sebenar dan doktor tersebut telah menggunakan alat laser utk memeriksa kecederaan dlm mata kanan suami sy. Doktor tersebut telah menyuruh sy melihat sendiri di mana kecederaan kecil di dlm mata suami. Walaupun itu hanya kecederaan kecil, menurut doktor, jika kami tidak segera dtg ke hospital, kemungkinan besar luka tersebut boleh berjangkit dan mungkin boleh menyebabkan kebutaan. (nauzubillah- seram sejuk sy dengar bila doktor tersebut berkata begitu). Suami sy pula mengatakan di dlm bidang kerjanya, dia perlu menggunakan matanya utk memeriksa kuman2 atau mikrob2 di bawah teleskop. Jadi, kami pulang lebih kurang pkl 11.30 mlm dgn dibekalkan ubat2 yg mata yg tertentu. Suami sy juga diberikan janji temu seterusnya utk pemeriksaan lanjut.

Kenapa sy ingin berkongsi cerita ini? Seperti di dlm tajuk di atas, ini bukan iklan  Permata Hijrah yg selalu keluar di TV3 tu ye. Kan di dlm iklan , "Mata adalah anugerah yg tidak ternilai. Jadi sayangilah mata anda". Ini hanya perkongsian kisah benar (bukan rekaan tau). Kdg2 kita ambil mudah jika terjadi apa2 kes kecil atau kecederaan kecil di rumah kan. Sy bukan mengata org lain sbb sy sendiri pun mmg ambil mudah jika hanya sakit sikit2 dan rasa malas nak berjumpa doktor. Kalau kes2 yg melibatkan organ2 deria yg penting, sy rasa kita perlu segera berjumpa doktor. Bukan apa, kalau dah melarat sampai ada jaangkitan kuman, doktor pun dah tak tahu mcmmana nak buat melainkan perlu dibuat pembedahan. Sy kalau bab2 pembedahan mmg takut. Anda pula mcmmana?

Save some for your rainy days.

Salam,

I might not be the expert when it comes to financial advice or the best investment for your future. However, I always believe that it's better to have some saving for your future. Since I was 15, I have had invested some money in ASB. (Amanah Saham Bumiputera). Though there's not a lot of money in my ASB account, I still can use the dividends I receive every year as my emergency fund. Of course, from time to time, I have had to use the money but I always make sure I replace it whenever possible. My hubby and I plan to open Amanah Saham Didik for our daughters soon. Yup, they already have their education insurance but this investment is for other things that they might need in future. If the older generations (before us) prefer to buy properties like some land lots and houses, my hubby and I prefer to invest our money in buying shares (in ASB or ASD) and also buying insurances.

What I want to share here is just my personal opinion about saving some money for the rainy days and also for our future. I always tell myself that I shouldn't just depend on the EPF money for my retirement plan. It's better to have more than just EPF as we never know how long we can work and of course how long we are going to live. We (my siblings and I) are quite lucky when my late mom somehow invested some money in one insurance plan. Now, it's my responsibility to make sure that the money is to be used reasonably. That's why I've also invested the money in another type of Amanah Saham. I don't want the money to be depleted and hopefully it could last longer so that it's not just for us but also for our children.

Now, I'm interested to know about your plan for your rainy days? What kind of investments have you chose for your future? If there's any better plan, I would like to know too.

I feel guilty but do I have other choices?

Salam,

I'm feeling guilty lately as I have less time to take care of my daughters. Though I'm only teaching for 4 hours, I have to be at work from 8-4 everyday as the classes are two hours in the morning and another two hours in the afternoon. So, I'm  actually working like a full-time worker. Once I arrive home, I only have about 6 hours with them before they go to bed. Now, I really miss those time when I can spend 24-7 with them. But here in Malaysia, I don't have other choice. I have to work to help my hubby financially.

I reckon most FTWM share this same feelings. That's why more and more would like to WAHM. How I wish I can become a WAHM too. But for now I have to teach part time and save some money before I can figure out what's the best next move.

Deebo Dibo2x Ding (Do your children think they can just wish for anything?)

Salam,
Lately, my daughters like to watch a program on PHDC on Astro. The cartoon is about a kind and friendly dragon. The catchy theme song sounds like this :

Fathini can actually tell me the wordings of the theme song. She wants me to type out the wordings here but I just tell her I would prefer to make a video of her singing the song. (Unfortunately I'm not good in uploading any video here yet. huhu). 

Why am I sharing about this particular cartoon? As a mom, I can't help but monitoring all the programs that my daughters like to watch. At first, my hubby was a bit hesitated about letting our daughters watching this program as this program is teaching children that if we want anything we can just wish and the wish will come true. But my personal opinion is different as I know that we've taught our daughters that nothing comes easily. Until now, alhamdulillah our daughters never ask things we can't afford or ask any unreasonable things. Maybe it's still early to say anything as our daughters are still small. Who knows when they are teenagers, they might be demanding. We can only teach and guide but they will make their own choices.

Now, I wonder about how do you control or monitor what your kids watch on tv? Is there any guidelines and limited hours of watching? As SHARING IS CARING, I would love to hear your view on this issue.

When you are in love with...............(dedicated to all WC fans)

Salam,

This is a spur-at-the-moment poem that I would like to dedicate to all World Cup fans. (I'm not one of the fans-pls don't ask me why).

WHEN YOU ARE IN LOVE

Don't ask me why,

I don't share the same love,

Don't describe the passion,

because I just can't understand,

FOR

When you are in love,

You would do anything,

You would sacrifice everything,

You would wait for the game to start,

You would make sure you stay awake until the end,

You would glad to share the joy with your friends,

You would even shed some tears for your team,

FOR 

When you are in love,

With World Cup,

Nothing else would matter.

P/S: This morning, only few on students turned up for the class. For those who attended the class, they looked like zombies who were physically there but mentally somewhere else.

Will UPSR and PMR be totally abolished? What's going to happen next?

Salam,
I read an article in one of local newspapers few days ago about the suggestion of abolishing UPSR and PMR. Actually this issue has been discussed few years back but until now both public examinations are still there. In the proposal, they want to replace UPSR and PMR with school assessments which are not just based on examinations but also some practical assessments.

As I'm in the educational field (though I'm not teaching school children), I strongly feel that the suggestion is a very wonderful suggestion. WHY? Personally, I just don't want my children to feel so stressed like I used to feel every time I sat for those public exams. The pressures to excel, to make my parents feel proud and also peer pressures is too much to be handled. At the end, I don't think I really enjoy my school time except for some memories of other non-academic achievements and teachers who managed to impart some important knowledge.

Nowadays, things are getting worse when there are a lot of parents who really want their children to excel in those public examinations just for the sake of bragging about their children to their friends. That's why some children are sent to tuition centres as early as 5 and 6 years old! Maybe some parents will disagree with me on this but I strongly believe in teaching my children and equipping them with both IQ and EQ. A person who has a high IQ is not going to survive unless his/her EQ helps him/her to make sense of what's happening. In short, if you intelligent but you don't have any social skills, you are going to have a hard time in fitting in the society and even at your workplace.

I'm not sure how are the teachers going to assess their students in schools when UPSR and PMR are abolished. I can just assume the system might be like the system that's been used in US, UK and other countries. One thing for sure, this should not be done drastically and a lot of study and research are needed. I always pity my fellow friends who are teaching in schools when they complain that they have to carry out whatever instructions they receive from the ministry. At the end, teachers,school children and also parents are those who would suffer the consequences.

So, any comments? Just drop a line or two as I want to know your opinion about this.

Mengapa airmataku tumpah smlm......(BM Entry)

Salam,

Smlm buat pertama kalinya setelah bertahun2 mengajar, airmataku tumpah dek kerana pelajar2 yg kurang ajar dan kurang asam boi! Apa yg terjadi? Alkisahnya, mereka telah pergi mengadu kepada bosku. Mereka mendakwa yg mereka tidak dapat faham apa2 pun apa yg aku telah ajar utk 3 hr. Mereka meminta supaya ditukarkan dgn guru lain. Nasib baiklah bosku ni jenis yg tak mudah mendengar apa2 tuduhan tanpa menyiasat dulu. Jd, tghr smlm, mereka diminta oleh bosku utk bersemuka dgn ku dan org kanan bosku utk mendengar apakah perkara2 yg buat mereka tk puas hati. Aku tak takut pun sbb aku tahu aku dah cuba sebaik mungkin utk mengajar diaorg. Mereka membuat pelbagai dakwaan palsu dan aku dpt menepis tuduhan2 mereka. Sblm perbincangan berakhir, org kanan bosku meminta spy mereka memberi peluang kpd ku utk cuba mengajar lg. (hr ni).

Aku masih lg dpt mengawal perasaan  slps perbincangan tu dan masuk ke kelas seterusnya dgn berlagak seperti biasa. Tapi sebaik shj kelas seterusnya berakhir, aku sudah tak dpt mengawal perasaan. Tanpa diminta2 airmataku mengalir laju. Apabila aku masuk ke bilik guru, kwn2 seperti biasa bertanaya tentang pelajar2. Aku tidak dpt menjawab pertanyaan mereka. Aku hanya mampu bertenang slps 10 minit dan bercerita tentang apa yg terjadi. Kwn2 ku mengatakan yg itu adalah perkara biasa skrg. Pelajar2 yg tidak puas hati akan terus mengadu kpd bos. Mereka juga pernah terkena dan mereka menasihatkan agar aku tabah dan kuat semangat. Selalunya hanya seorang dua yg tidak puas hati tetapi mereka akan mengatakan yg kesemua pelajar tidak puas hati.

Pg ini, aku masuk ke kelas tersebut seperti biasa dan aku sengaja tidak bercakap apa2 pun tentang kejadian smlm. Di akhir kelas, salah seorang pelajar (sebenarnya yg nilah ketua yg mengajak kwn2nya mengadu) telah dtg kepadaku dan meminta maaf atas kejadiann smlm. Aku yg masih lg terguris hanya mampu mengangguk tanpa berkata apa2. Hr ni, mereka semua berkata yg mereka faham apa yg perlu mereka buat utk subjek "Writing".Bg aku, susah juga utk aku menerima maaf mereka krn perbuatan mereka yg telah mencemar nama baikku di depa bosku. Skrg ni aku hanya mengajar mereka krn aku hanya inginkan gaji. Tapi keberkatan ilmu yg aku ajar tu, rasanya dah hilang. Tak tahulah. Kalau yg membaca luahan hati ni, apa yg anda fikir? Kalau anda di tempatku, apa yg anda akan buat?

Why did I choose "A Transformed Housewife"?

Salam,
 I reckon by now those who have been reading my blog are wondering why did I choose to change the name of this blog from "A Temporary Housewife" to "A Transformed Housewife". Well..............since I've started working last month, officially I'm no longer a temporary housewife. I'm only working part time and I still consider myself as a housewife. Thus, "A Transformed Housewife" is the best title to describe my situation now.

Now, I want to share a little bit about my job now. I'm working at the same place that I used to work before I went to New Zealand. Basically I work as an "English Instructor" in a private language centre in KL. After 3 1/2 years, there are so many changes that have happened at the place. So, I felt like a newcomer last month. But I'm lucky because I still have some good friends who are still working there.

I only did  2 hours of teaching Grammar last month. But I stayed for another 2 hours to do some required management duty and also the class preparation. I had a class of mixed abilities students They came from Saudi Arabia, Sudan, Iran, Libya and Malaysia. The class ended last Friday where they received their results. (Each sessions is only about 4 weeks for each level). 

 Some of my students and me.

The most interesting day for each session is the Graduation Ceremony. Last Friday (3rd July2010), the theme of the graduation was "FIFA World Cup 2010". In the morning, there were some activities like football juggling competition and World Cup Quiz.  The highlight was of course some of the performances done by the students. Some classes performed interesting dramas. Most of the dramas was about the dilemma of mixed marriages. (Like An Arab man wants to get married to a Chinese girl, An Iranian Man wants to get married to Korean girl). There was also a special performance done by some students and some instructors. They danced like in Shakira's new video clip for the WC theme song "Waka Waka". Everybody enjoyed the special performance as some even copied the dance movements. (well- I myself found that I tapped my feet to the beats-hehe). 

Here are some photos during the graduation ceremony.

AND now...............at least I've explain why I was really struggling to find time to become an active blogger like I used to. By this month, I hope I can some time to sit and at least come out with a line or two.

And the winners are................(as I promised yesterday)

Salam,
As I promised yesterday that the winners will be announced today. Though not so many bloggers tried in my contest (due to the lack of promotion), I received some interesting suggestions. So that's why I've made my mind.


These are the winners:
1- Aloha Molly : A transformed housewife

2- Mommy Yen: A mighty Mommy.

3- Fa10:  Bila surirumah mula bekerja.


Congratulations to the winners. Please leave your e-mail address again here so I can contact all of you to get your home address and your mobile no. Insya Allah in the future, I'll organize a more organize contest for all the bloggers out there.