Middle Child Syndrome: Is Hafizah facing it now?

Salam,

What is a Middle Child?

A middle child is someone who is born in between two or more siblings. Being born in the middle, as you’ll soon find out is not that simple. The middle child, unlike the eldest or youngest child, does not get much attention. Middle children are also usually considered outcasts in their families and often develop a condition called Middle Child Syndrome.


              Hafizah  is 5 years old and YES she is our middle child. We thought that the huge age gap (5 years) between her and her younger sister will help her to come to the term of having younger sibling since she is kind of whiny little girl. Only after 6 months of having Husna, Hafizah has shown some regression and acting out when I can't give the attention to her. I didn't realize I was abandoning her somehow because I was busy taking care of Husna who needs more attention. When my hubby told me to give more attention to Hafizah too when I'm free, I became so defensive and denying his claim. 

I don't want Hafizah to have the low self-esteem just because she feels unwanted or unloved. So, I'm trying my best now to juggle my time between the three of them and always be aware of their special needs. Sometimes we take our so called "normal" kids for granted that we never think they also have their own special needs.

Now, if any other parents out there are facing the same problem or faced this problem before, would you care to share your opinion about this?