In our life, we know that there's always be the causes and the effects. We are forced to consider the causes and of course the effects when we want to make any decisions. I love to teach my children about the causes and effects of their actions. I reckon, when they understand that whatever they can cause some effects, they'll have to think first before they act.
HOWEVER.................after sometimes, I'm now constantly have to battle with their questions of "WHY MAMA?" for everything that I ask them to do.
SO, let's look at some examples of the conversations that I had with my daughters so far:
Me: Come on Fathini, hurry up! Or else we're going to be late.
Tini: But why Mama? Why?
Me: It's already 8.30 now and your school starts at 8.45.
Tini: Why school starts ermmm 8(she couldn't say the time correctly yet)...... mama?
Me: Well, it's because your teacher said so.
Me:Hafizah, tidy up your toys.
Hafizah: I'm tired. Why Mama, ....tidy up?
Me: You played and now its your duty to tidy up.
Hafizah: I don't want to tidy up.......(she made a-pity-me-face) because I'm sleepy and tired.
Me: If you don't tidy up, next time you can't play with your toys. Kakak (Fathini) likes to tidy up, so she can play with the toys next time.
Hafizah: I want to play (2x). (then she'll cry)
Based on my experiences dealing with my daughters, I reckon at the age of 4-6, they are able to understand more on the reasoning. That's why Fathini is able to accept causes and effects of her actions. Unfortunately, for Hafizah who's just 3, she's still struggling to accept the concept. Most of the time she rebels. Maybe it's also because she's the second child who has the second child syndrome?
What about your battle with your kids? Do you have the same problem? How do you deal with them? What's your approach?