I'm going to share some tips on how to make your marriage survive in a long distance relationship. I'm going to share what we (my hubby and I) did when we first got married until Fathini (our eldest daughter) turned 10 months old. We got married on 28th November 2003. During that time, my hubby was still pursuing his Masters Degree in UPM. And I worked in USM. We only met during weekends and long public holidays. I know that there are other married couple out there who have to live separately due to their job demands. And we had to be miles away too when my hubby had to come to NZ first without Fathini and me since I couldn't fly when I just knew I was pregnant with Hafizah. I've seen my parents who had to do the same thing for a longer period of time than us- about more than 5 years!.
How your marriage could survive in a long distance relationship:
- Keep in touch almost everyday.
We used to send e-mails almost everyday, call every two days and sometimes chat on YM.
- Trust each other.
checking it out for yourself.
- Make every weekend/holidays together special as possible.
dish and my hubby would help me with the washing and also taking care of Fathini.
- Share everything with your loved one.
- Tell him/her how much you love him/her.
to say those three words anymore. BUT the fact is, we as a human being need to hear those
magic words.
- Plan that one day both of you will live under one roof.
one of you has to sacrifice. I was the one who had to sacrifice my job but I was determined
to do that especially after our daughter was admitted to a hospital for 2 nights. In my case, I
didn't have any relatives that live nearby and I was always worried if some emergency cases
happen.
I hope those tips can help those who have to be the "weekend husband-wife". I only share things based on my own experiences. I'm sure the others could add some other tips too. For those who are still single and who knows one day, they might have this kind of relationship too, I hope you'll be prepared.
9 comments:
memang mencabar hidup berjauhan.. azma berjauhan 5 bulan waktu pregnantkan luqman.. azma di sesorg di bangi, hubby di abu dhabi..isk isk. tp kdg2 mak n MIL dtg bangi temankan.nasib baik rumah apartment, tak la takut sangat sbb tau ade jiran keliling..
i'll be prepared
huuuuu
hehe,..teringat dulu masa long distance dgn hubby masa awal2 kawan dulu, igtkan takde dah laa. rupanya ada jodoh kami..
hmm,huhu.btul tu kak nur.bile berjauhan dgn suami,kene keep in touch.klu dulu ms berdua je,ari2 cerita psl aktiviti harian diri sndiri je.skrang ni,main topik bile suami call, cerita pasal anak ajolah..hehe..
baru tau kak nur dgn hubby dulu duk berjauhan :). mencabar tak kak duk jauh?
Cik Ma, mmg susah kan tapi kalau dah terpaksa utk cari rezeki nak buat mcmmana.
Noor, it's good to be prepared.
Nia, kalau dh jodoh tak ke mana.
Diyana, aah dah ada anak banyak cerita pasal anak esp. apa yg hubby miss out.
Nadiah, mencabar jugak sbb kena jaga Fathini sorang2 dan keluarga pun jauh.
thank Allah, u passed the 'test' . lepas ni xyoh duk jauh2 doh ;)
saya memang berdempek saja ngan hubby kakak
memang takleh bayang kalau dok berjauhan
elokla selalu tinggal sebumbung sbb susah berjauhan ni.
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