Siblings rivalry is so common among siblings especially if the age gap is so close. I remember when I was small, I had some arguments and misunderstanding with my younger sis YATIE CHOMEYL. Even though the age gap is about 4 years, we were the only girls before our youngest sister was born in 1994. Basically, we grew up together and bickering, fighting over something and the jealousy feeling were so inevitable.
My daughters; Fathini and Hafizah also have experienced some inevitable symptoms of siblings rivalry. One second, they can play nicely with each other. The next second, Fathini shouts at her Hafizah. Hafizah who is more boisterous, loves to hit Fathini. They really remind me about what happened to me long time ago.
I always use the normal methods of-
FIRST: Ignore the incident.
SECOND: Check if they still can't resolve the problem.
THIRD: Never choose any side. Ask them to apologize to each other.
FOURTH: Take away their privileges like watching tv or playing with toys (and etc) if they don't want to apologize.
FIFTH: Put them in a separate place for a while as "THE TIME OUT" punishment.
Sometimes those methods are easier said than done, right? My daughters know there's a soft spot in me that can make them escape from any kind of punishments. If I think at that moment, I'm not able to handle the situation, I'll hand over the task to my hubby! Well, it's good to have someone else to help you out especially when you yourself are so stressed up.
The last thing I want to share today is about what happened to 2 of my brothers years ago:
My brother P was so mad at his younger brother E who was always rude. They got into a serious fight like a scene in a boxing match. E almost punched P. Fortunately P, managed to avoid. When my late mom saw what happened. She immediately asked them to stop and sit. Then, she went back to the kitchen. When she came back, she ask P & E to sit next to each other while facing backward. She tied them together and asked them to continue with their fight. GUESS what happened after that? Both of them were so quiet and totally forgot what they were fighting about.